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How to Make Women Crave Sex

2009-11-24T04:30:00.001-08:00

By R.T. Bucher

If you're not receiving sex three to four times a week...then you need to learn how to make women crave sex. Once you tap into the psychological and emotional triggers to fuel their desires, you can have sex as much as you want. Ready to discover how to make women crave sex? Then let me share with you three methods you can begin using tonight to super charge your sex life.

You need to use scents to spark her desire for you. These are like gun powder, once ignited her cravings for you will explode. Either a musky smelling cologne or baby powder will drive her senses crazy.
Giving her more orgasms and hotter sex will make her want to be with you more often. Use the rear entry position during sex and allow her to bring her favorite vibrator to bed with her. Use shorter thrusts to maximize her pleasure.
Look your best every waking second. When you go to work, wear the sharpest work clothes you own. When you are relaxing wear your best blue jeans and a relaxed fitting t-shirt. How many times have you looked over at your partner and wanted to have passionate sex with her, because the way she looked? Well she has the same visions in her head when you were something she finds attractive.

You're smart enough to know when a women is sexually satisfied she is much more likely to engage in more of it. The better your sack skills, the more chances you get to refine them. And when you drench her in ecstasy every single time you make love...she will repay you with more sex. It's the law of reciprocation at it's finest.

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Helpful Hints For Parents About Teens, Dating, and Sex

2009-11-21T11:44:00.000-08:00

By Kim Fredrickson

There are many new and wonderful experiences that teens often can't wait to delve into. For parents, this season of parenting brings excitement for our kids as well as fear about what they are getting themselves into. Dating and Sex is certainly in this category.

There are a lot of understandable questions about this topic - so here we go.

When do you start talking to your kids about sex, contraception, and STD's?

An important thing to remember is that these topics are best handled in a series of conversations, rather than one big talk. It would be best to start conversations about the body, caring for it, not abusing it, not letting others abuse it, etc very early on - this sets the context for continuing talks about the body. Talking to your child about sex before puberty is imperative, with continuing talks adding to the information you've shared. It is also great to start the conversation asking them what they know.

"Have you ever wondered how babies get inside the mommy's tummy?" (obviously for a younger child)
"What have you heard about STD's?"
"What kind of stories have you heard at school about sex?"
"How far do you think it's OK to go on a date?"
"What would you do if a boy/girl wanted to go farther physically than you were comfortable?"
"How will you know on the inside that you're being pushed to go farther than you're ready?"

Starting with questions is very important, because it gives you important information about what they know and where they are in their thinking process. This will clue you into misinformation they might have, so that you can gently correct it.

How do you bring up the issue of contraception?

Ideally you would bring it up in a series of conversations you have with your teen. After explaining the biology of sex, as well as your own convictions about where sex fits in the life of a relationship, it would be natural to explain how sex does not have to necessarily result in pregnancy. Pregnancy can be avoided through abstinence, and the chances can be lessened by contraception, which tries to make sure the egg and the sperm do not connect. This can be done by preventing the egg from being present (birth control pills), or the sperm not making it to the egg through condoms, spermicidal, etc.

Since teens do not tend to play out the results of their actions to the end, they need us to help them do so - and this could occur in another one of these conversations. When a person decides to be active sexually, they are also signing up for the possibility of lots of other outcomes, such as:

Pregnancy
STD's
Regret when and if the relationship ends
Possible lowered chance of becoming pregnant at a later date when desired
Gossip

Sex is an adult activity, not a recreational sport to be decided in the moment. As their parents, we need to help them think through this decision, as we do the other important decisions in their life.

Other things your teens need to know:

Differentiate between dating and sex. Dating does not have to include sex.
Accurate information about STD's (most teens do not know that STD's can be transmitted by oral sex).
They need to decide where their own line is regarding sexual activity. Trying to decide this in the middle of a passionate moment, or when experiencing sexual pressure from a date is not a wise move.
They need help paying attention to their own internal world, and their intuition when they feel unsafe or uncomfortable in a situation.
They need help coming up with an exit plan when they feel uncomfortable or unsafe, so as not to be caught in an unwanted situation.
They need to be able to set limits, stand up for themselves and say, "no".

Things you need to know:

The part of a person's brain that controls planning, impulse control, and foreseeing consequences is not fully developed until age 25. Therefore, a teen's ability to think through their decisions, especially in such an emotionally and physically charged area as their budding sexuality is not as developed as they think. They need you to help them think through decisions.
They need accurate information - otherwise most of their information comes from their peers and is probably riddled with inaccuracies.
It is best to take a "coaching" approach talking to your teens about this and other issues rather than a lecture format. One works, and helps your teen develop the ability to things through issues (coaching) and the other style (lecture) causes kids to shut down and not accept your influence.
It is understandable to be tempted to ignore the issue and hope your kids will be OK. Don't give into this temptation. Instead, get educated and be brave enough to have these important conversations with your teens. Teens whose parents talk to them about dating/sex, are better prepared and happier.
The important backdrop is establishing a close relationship with your teen, preferably from way back. Sometimes we can panic about things like dating/sex and come down hard on the rules- without having a strong connected relationship. So, work on listening, spending time, being encouraging, as well as setting guidelines for dating. When a close relationship is in place, teens will be much more likely to take in your influence and advice about dating/sex.
Try to be calm and in control of your responses. Overreacting, panicking, and controlling responses will just result in them shutting down and not sharing - and you want to keep the lines of communication open. It is important during these conversations to keep yourself as steady and non-reactive as possible. The bigger picture here is keeping the lines of communication open and to keep them feeling safe to share with you. Try some deep breathing, and coach yourself to stay centered - and bite your lip to keep from saying something reactive out of fear. Even though it's easy to be scared of what they are getting into, we need to stay the grown-up and keep ourselves centered.
Don't go through this time alone - get support and input from other parents at your teen's school, your church or synagogue, or neighborhood parents groups. It helps to get ideas, support, and empathy from other parents who understand the challenges you are facing.

Helpful Books

Boundaries with Teens by John Townsend
Talking to Your Kids About Sex: How to Have a Lifetime of Age-Appropriate Conversations with Your Children About Healthy Sexuality by Mark Laaser
How to Talk with Your Child About Sex: It's Best to Start Early, But It's Never Too Late - A Step by Step Guide for Parents by Linda and Richard Eyre
Why Do They Act That Way? by David Walsh

I hope this has been helpful. Parenting is challenging, Your teens need you. You can do it!

© Kim Fredrickson, M.S., Marriage and Family Therapist (CA MFC 22635) and Life, Parent, and Relationship Coach is the author of many popular CD's and articles that will help you build Encouraging Relationships in your life. To learn more about Kim and sign up for more FREE Relationships Tips like these, check out her weekly Podcast at http://kimspodcast.com as well as visit Encouraging Relationships at http://www.encouragingrelationships.com for more practical help with kids and teens.

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Taking the Ego Out of Sex Advice

2009-11-21T11:41:00.000-08:00

By Jane E Thomas

If there's one thing I would like to change, it is this know-it-all attitude that people bring to any discussion of sex. Adults so often assume that they know everything about sex and yet most people have never even read a sex manual.

Everyone is entitled to their own opinion but it would be more convincing if they were not flaunting their own sexual ego. Whatever our own personal views there is absolutely no need to express them in a way that humiliates other people.

A woman in her thirties was confident in recommending: "I love sex and I am sure I love it just as much as men do. If you are not enjoying sex you need a new partner. You should be enjoying sex! ... I have had many lovers which I completely and thoroughly enjoyed wild, hot, passionate sex just for sex sake! "

If women were truly offering to share experiences, they would express their views with more humility. People feel free to make highly personal comments about someone else's relationship when, in truth, they know very little about sex. It is this arrogant and patronising approach that holds other people back from talking about sex.

Are such women even aware that orgasms exists? They talk about enjoying sex but perhaps that doesn't include true female sexual arousal and orgasm? They are happy with reality as they find it because sex totally fulfills their expectations. There is no appreciation of the fact that people approach sex from totally different perspectives.

I am discussing sex on a different and more questioning level. For example, when I had sex for the first time I already knew how to masturbate myself to orgasm. Most women never learn how to orgasm by themselves let alone with a partner. Some other women only learn about orgasm through masturbation much later. So they have nothing to compare sex with.

As recently (when you think that sex has been around for eons) as the 1950's, society was shocked to the core when Alfred Kinsey proposed that women might be even capable of orgasm. So if orgasm is just as easy to achieve, natural and spontaneous for women as it is for men, then it must be the best kept secret ever.

Even today with all the information we have, our liberated views and easy access to sexual partners my point is that it cannot be that every women in the world (or even just in western society) now experiences orgasm during sex. Most people still don't even appreciate that the clitoris is the female sex organ and the source of a woman's orgasm however she claims to achieve it.

This is because clitoral stimulation only works once a woman is aroused enough in her mind for genital stimulation to be effective. Even if a woman realises that her sexual arousal works through focusing on complex erotic scenarios during female masturbation alone, it is much less intuitive for her to even consider using similar orgasm techniques during sex with a partner.

Women who are claiming that it is all so easy need to start offering more factual substance to back their claims of sexual arousal and orgasm. Other women out there have also have a female mind and body. We know that without testosterone and the male sex drive, we do not constantly have eroticism, sex and orgasm on our minds.

Any woman who knows anything about her own sexual arousal knows that women have to work up to sex. A woman who admits that arousal takes longer, for example, or that she has to work at achieving her own arousal is more credible.

It is a FACT that since very few women masturbate, by definition, most women approach sex without any knowledge of what orgasm feels like or how to achieve it. So they ASSUME that female orgasm occurs as easily as male orgasm does. The pleasures they enjoy during sex, whether sensual pleasure or sharing physical intimacy, they attribute to arousal and orgasm.

Dating is easy because of the romance that often accompanies sex. Try being married for ten to twenty years and many couples find that a good sex life requires a little investment. Again if it all continues blissfully for you, great, but there's no need to patronise others. You may think that you have all the answers but if you are to help others you will need to provide specifics.

Jane Thomas: Author http://WaysWomenOrgasm.org and http://Nosper.com

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